Failing: Why Stigmatized?

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Want to know who doesn’t fail? People who don’t want to try anything new. People who don’t leave their comfort zone. People who live with regret. Failing quintessentially divides people into two camps: Are we willing to try something, that may better ourselves and those around us; or do we want to play it safe, stay in our bubble, and never take a chance? I’m not sure when “failing” became a thing. It sounds like some sort of American paradox: the people who moved America failed over and over, yet we expect perfection that prevents people from even trying because …

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Our Subconscious: everything becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy

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I’ve heard people bitch about “that’s just a self-fulling prophecy.” One such person was a college roommate. He’d complain about something becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy while he’d watch sci-fi movies all day at his desk. Instead of doing something for himself, he’d passive-aggressively project. His subconscious already decided that he couldn’t do it. Once we convince ourselves we can’t do something, it’s hard to reverse it. Everything we do becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People who have convinced themselves that they can break down walls, barriers, or ceilings are the same people who achieve whatever they want because they’ve already convinced …

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5 by 5 rule: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

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The amount of people sweating the small stuff never ceases to astonish. Whether it be our jobs, our family, our hobby, or something that we came across will making the Monday commute — something seems to put us over the edge. Why though? The world may be full of many temporary inconveniences, but few things matter longer than the immediate present. Live the 5 by 5 rule. The 5 by 5 rules simply states that if something won’t matter in 5 years, but spend more than 5 minutes upset about it. Don’t be a drama queen. Don’t create unnecessary stress. …

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Bitching about fellow Millennials

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There won’t be citations. I am the citation. I’ve experienced everything in this manifesto first hand. Everyone has his or her own experience. I have mine. Every generation has its own thing; mine certainly has its own. I see strong divides in millennials who “get it” and those who don’t. The only comparison I can think of is a rich vs. poor kid going to an Ivy. The poor kid will get a great education; the rich kid will be set for life. I know of quite a few people who do “get it”, but unfortunately too many of my …

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What’s the worst thing that could happen?

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What holds us back? The person who holds us back the most is ourselves. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Our minds are genetically-engineered to be risk-averse. We’d rather not lose than gain. We also regret not doing things than actually taking the change and doing things. Go figure. No wonder relationships “are complicated”. Let’s get this out of the way first. The worst thing that could happen to us is die. How often do we do something that might actually kill someone? Outside of driving, which – knock on wood – rarely results in someone dying, how often …

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Get stuff done hack, easier life?

Want to get stuff done? Even really mentally tedious tasks? There’s a simple way to get stuff done and that is to simply make them easy and accessible. Make it routine. Make it accessible. And make it as “fun” as possible. We don’t like doing tasks that suck. We especially don’t like doing task that suck that eat a lot of time. The easier the chore is to do, the more likely it will be to do. The total opposite is also true. Want to stop watching so much TV? Hide the remote. Want to curve on the amount of …

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Visualize success before it happens, the key?

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Visualize success before it happens to make it a reality. Our subconscious mind is a powerful being. Visualize the success that it brings before it happens and watch your ideas, plans, and vision become a reality. Many a people visualize their futures far before it ever happens. They have a grand vision that they seek to create. When their future becomes the present, they knew it all along. They only had to execute. If we don’t know what we want, how can we achieve it. How can we achieve if we don’t visualize? If can be a family, a career, …

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Minimalism — Less is more in our lives

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It seems almost counterintuitive to be an American and want less. Especially after Christmas. Minimalism seems like a weird, counterculture lifestyle when more people can be materialistic as ever. But why do we actually want more stuff? Because we fell into love from advertisements? We want what other people have? Or because we’re buying stuff to fill some sort of need want? I almost by accident discovered minimalism a few months ago. I think I found it while browsing TED talks on YouTube. It got my attention. Why have stuff we don’t need? (And by stuff I mean things that …

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Three words for 2017 — what are yours?

Three words for 2017. (Apparently each word has its own meaning, so no phrases with taxing prepositions.) My mom sent me this link a few days ago discussing three words to guide us through 2017. After a little bit of careful deliberation, I arrived at my three. Accomplish Ideas are dime a dozen, especially for me. I can think of quite a few things I can and want to do, but actually finishing them is a whole, different story. One of my three words for 2017 is “accomplish” because I don’t want to leave things halfway done — I want …

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